Let's talk about social friendliness! I mean, I consider myself to be a nice person and a fairly acceptable friend. I am constantly smiling, asking the people who surround me how they've been and listening to what they have to say. I am the shoulder my friends cry on when they need me to be, I do not criticize or complain. All I am asking for is the same courtesy.
This week, I met up with a lot old acquaintances, colleagues and friends. Apparently, despite me being a very good friend, I lack in the department of being socially friendly. And so, I have been thinking...what is so wrong about that? What is the point of being in a social environment where you are required to idly chat with people you do not necessarily want to be around or be associated with? I am not talking about business networking events either, polite and professional I can deal with. Keeping up an awkward conversation with a person I would rather never see again and not being able to be rude because they are a friend of a friend drives me up the wall.
I used to think I was shy in social situations, and that would be my excuse for not talking to people who were not my friends during parties or nights out. Then I thought that it just takes me a bit longer to warm up to others. Now, I have come to realize that I just do not care what people have to say if it is not a topic that I am interested in. Therefore, if I will not acquire any knowledge or amusement form a conversation, why waist my time at all.
One of my colleagues likes to say that I am a "nice" snob...I should be insulted, I know I should...I just do not understand how she thinks it to be a compliment. My best friend says that I have to analyze a person for quite awhile before a deem it acceptable to associate myself with them. Well...at least my colleague said I was nice. My own mother, tells me I am rude because I just say a general hello to her friends when they are around her as apposed to their daughters who go around the room and greet everyone individually. Waste of time or "socially acceptable"? Why should I even care? Is it so wrong to not want to be fake with people? When did being polite and being socially acceptable stop correlating? I would really like to find out.
Until next time